Waffl6 wrote: ↑Mon Mar 02, 2020 6:04 pmAdd more lights. You need multiple lights forward facing on your rig to be more "attention grabbing."
The problem with a single light is that it can be missed or doesn't give oncoming drivers a good enough depth to perceive. They can't tell how fast you're going, if they even see you at all.
The solution: running lights, sidecar spotlight, a GOOD horn and above all a clear mind and training. You're responsible for yourself on the streets, that's just how it is.
Motorcycle riding isn't for everyone. I know a lot of people think that a sidecar is safer than 2 a wheeler but the fact of the matter is that is only in certain circumstances. Have you seen what happens to the tub in a crash? Yeah, that's gonna make sure you have to skip leg day for a while.
I drive one of those huge 4-Jeeps now, blazing Red in color. It's like a volcano coming down the road. In the middle of the brightest day I've had other cars swerve into me and then give me the "I'm so sorry I didn't see you" apology shrug. At least I get that sometimes.
More lights, reflectors, all good but no one is going to be able to avoid at some point a distracted or bad (or both) driver. You are putting yourself outside the circle of steel as a choice so always be prepared to make a split-second decision.
For the O.P., I would not personally encourage or press your girl to ride with you until she is good & ready. And perhaps she never will be, that's just life.
My wife took the full MSF course and was out riding a TW200 with me when she got spooked and hit a curb. Less than 5 mph but think 5mph into a wall.
She just started riding the Vespa I got her last year and had asked for a rack for it for Christmas. So she's ready but I doubt she will ever ride a 2-wheel dual sport off-road with me again. But who knows?
It's a process to come back from a near miss or tumble or worse. Some do and some don't.
Just count your blessings.